All relationships ebb and flow. It’s perfectly natural during the course of a marriage to experience times when being together is wonderful, and other times when it’s less so.
But what if the lows frequently exceed the highs? Here are some of the warning signs for divorce that we’ve seen from talking to hundreds of our family law clients…
You have a lack of focus in your life
Do you feel unsettled about your future? Without realising it, uncertainty about your marriage could be impacting upon your clarity of thinking in other areas of your life, including your friendships, family and work.
A strong marriage should provide you with the foundation you need to achieve balance in all areas of your life. Your partner’s influence should hopefully shape you to become the very best version of you – psychologists call this the Michelangelo phenomenon.
You need to invest time with your partner to create this strong foundation – which includes taking time to listen, as well as talk. A simple way to create good quality listening time is to go for a walk or drive together – physically moving forwards in the same direction while talking can help to clarify your thoughts.
Your business is suffering
For many of the professionals and business owners that we speak to about divorce, difficulties at work can be traced back to difficulties at home. Unfortunately it isn’t possible to give your best performance at work when your home life is unhappy.
To be productive in your job, you need to be able to arrive at work feeling energized and refreshed – your home life should provide you with respite from the strains of working life, not add to it.
If you feel that your business is suffering, we recommend taking a short break from work. Go somewhere with your partner where you cannot access emails, and take time to reconnect. Make sure that you sleep well, eat well and give yourself permission to relax.
Returning to the office to tackle your business problems with renewed energy can help you put them into perspective, and to overcome them.
You’re no longer fit
Most of us could benefit from more exercise. If you find that you have put on weight or become out of breath when climbing the stairs, take action before your lifestyle takes you out of action.
Getting fit requires time and effort – so schedule exercise into your calendar in the same way that you would a business meeting. If you need professional advice, get a personal trainer or a fitness coach – if you can combine it with an existing passion for sport, so much the better.
And if all else fails…
At Benussi & Co, we see divorce as the very last resort for a relationship, and just like a marriage, it shouldn’t be entered into lightly. If you feel that you would benefit from a confidential discussion with a member of our expert family law team, please give us a call on 0121 248 4001 or email us at email@example.com. We’re here to help you.