Stress is one of the hardest things to cope with during a divorce. One of the things it steals from us is a good night’s sleep. This is a fundamental need for good health for a number of reasons but mostly as it helps us to recharge our batteries and stay focused.
Being emotionally balanced can prove difficult, but we always say to clients that it is important, as stress can be handled in a rational manner if we learn to pace ourselves regarding our worries. Sleep reduces tensions and depression, healing the body and reducing emotional sensitivity.
We understand that the stresses associated with divorce are constantly at the back of your mind and these can make it harder to fall asleep. Depression and anxiety are two elements that can also cause insomnia as the process continues.
To help combat these issues, clients can try a number of practical solutions that may help.
Practicing relaxation techniques will help to disengage your mind as the focus shifts to breathing and your body. There are some excellent meditation resources that can be found online to teach you how to get into the habit of relaxation.
Screen-time on phones or laptops is not the best idea particularly when you are trying to go to sleep. The blue light emitted has been known to make it harder to fall asleep. Scrolling through texts and email will add to the stress and not help you to relax.
Try not to second guess matters. It is very easy for clients to start worrying about things that are not necessarily going to happen during the process. Money. Children. Income – these are all big issues, but the team knows what it is doing and will always work hard on your behalf. Believe in this and it should help to eliminate unnecessary worries about a divorce.
By focussing on what you can control, stress and associated anxiety will diminish. Instead try to focus on you. Try to plan some things that you can enjoy with family and friends to help distract you. This way you will be able to start to build happier memories to think about before you go to sleep. Distractions can help you to participate in proceedings from a stronger position.
If emotions are running high, with issues constantly replaying in your mind, try to take a warm shower or bath about an hour before you go to bed. Soaking in a warm bath will initially raise your body temperature, but once out, it will more rapidly cool down. This process produces the sleep hormone melatonin, which can help to induce sleep.
Finally we recommend to clients who are suffering from insomnia that they keep their bedroom a sleep friendly zone. Darkness produces melatonin which is the body’s signal for sleep. Dim the lights and settle down on a good mattress with comfortable pillows.
Of course, if serious medical issues start to develop due to a lack of sleep, we would always recommend our clients make an appointment with a health professional.
If you wish to discuss any issues regarding your divorce please do call the team on 0121 248 4001